Take A Stand: Prevention of Bullying
7 YEAR OLDS – Instructional Guide Day 2
By Sherryll Kraizer, Ph.D.
- To discuss what they observed about bullying at home and at school
- To define Taking A Stand and Advocacy
- To define Coaching and Being Coachable
- Role-play being bullied, standing up for yourself and being an advocate
Teacher-Directed Discussion and Role-play
Who can tell me about bullying that you saw happening at school or at home? Remember no names.
Take A Stand
This Program is called Take A Stand. What do you think “Take A Stand” means?
When you speak up for what you believe in, for what you know to be right, you take a stand. You literally stand up, look out at the world and say, “This is who I am, and this is what I stand for.”
In this class, we take a stand for treating people fairly, with respect for who they are, and for speaking up for those who are not treated with respect. We speak out against bullying and conflict among people.
We declare that we want to live in a community that treats everyone with respect. We declare that we can be counted on to remind other people when they are not treating others with respect and consideration for their individuality.
Being an Advocate
Part of taking a stand is learning to be an “Advocate.” Who knows what an advocate is?
An advocate is someone who speaks up for someone else. We’re going to speak up, to be advocates for kids who are being bullied. We’re also going to be advocates for our community by speaking up and letting bullies know that their behavior is unacceptable in our community.
RP: I need three people to help me (a bully, a victim and an advocate)
Bully: Take this kids backpack and toss it away.
Victim: Say, “Stop it.”
Advocate: Come over and say, “That’s not nice. We don’t treat other people that way.” Pick up the backpack and give it back to the other child.
RP: I need three more people to help me (a bully, a victim and an advocate)
Bully: You are calling this kid names like “dummy”
Victim: Say, “Quit it.”
Advocate: Intervene and say, “Stop it. We don’t talk to people that way.” To other child, say, “Let’s go do something.”
RP: Now I need 6 kids (4 bullies, 1 victim, 1 advocate)
Bullies: You are teasing and taunting and poking this child
Victim: You are trying to defend yourself but there are too many of them.
Advocate: Intervene and say “That’s not nice, stop it!” or “We agreed not to treat each other that way.” Walk away with child being made fun of.
Remember that the PRIMARY MESSAGE is:
- You need to stop. That behavior is unacceptable in this community (school, house, neighborhood).
- I do not want to be around someone who treats others with disrespect. (Walk away, taking bullied person with you.)
- I am going to tell an adult if this bullying of others doesn’t stop.
Coaching and Being Coachable
NOTE: Kids who are bullies and victims are often unwilling to consider what you are saying and have a lot of difficulty trying on a new way of behaving. The concept of Coaching and Being Coachable are designed to enable them to try something new.
Who know what it means to be a coach?
A Coach is someone who provides training, who gradually shows you how your performance can be improved.
In order to learn from a coach, you must be “coachable.” You must be willing to listen, to follow directions, to try something you’ve never tried before, to recognize that your coach knows more about the subject than you do. If you’re not coachable, you’re not learning. You’re wasting your time.
So in the following role-plays, be sure you’re listening for coaching from me and from the advocates!
RP: I need 5 kids. (1 bully, 1 victim, 3 advocates)
Bully: “Your clothes look like they came from a shelter!”
Victim: “That’s not a very nice thing to say.”
Advocates: “That’s really unkind, stop it!”
“I’m not going to hang with someone who acts this way.”
“That’s hurtful, cut it out.”
RP: I need 6 players. (3 bullies, 1 victim, 2 advocates)
Victim and Bullies: You’ve come out to recess late and when you try to join a game, the other kids make fun of you and won’t let you play
Advocates: How are you going to intervene? (Allow coaching from group)
RP: This time I need four players. (2 bullies, 1 victim, 1 advocate)
Bullies: You take this kids homework and throw it in a dumpster?
Victim: You get very upset but don’t know what to do.
Advocate: Say, “You’re a jerk, I’m going to tell.”
Bully: “Go ahead and tell, I don’t care.”
Discussion: Is this tattling?
No, tattling is when you tell on another kid or your brothers or sisters to get them in trouble. Telling because you need help with a problem is not tattling.
I’d like you to pay attention to your own behavior for a few days and see if you can identify times when you are a bit of a bully. Notice how you feel and how it makes others feel.
- Draw a picture showing a bullying situation with an advocate. Put into bubbles what they are saying.
Day 3 – Impact of bullying
Day 4 – Physical and emotional bullying
Day 5 – Resources for help – Asking for what you need
© 2016 Sherryll Kraizer, Ph.D. Used with permission