Take A Stand: Prevention of Bullying
7 YEAR OLDS – Instructional Guide Day 4
By Sherryll Kraizer, Ph.D.
- To recognize times when children have been bullies themselves
- To learn how to apologize and “clean up” after their behavior
- To acknowledge that adults have problems.
- To acknowledge that they sometimes take their problems out on their children
- To introduce the concept of hitting which is excessive
- To introduce the concept of words that hurt
Teacher-Directed Discussion and Role-play
How many of you recognized times that you were being a bully, or being unkind to someone or making someone else feel bad?
How did you feel when you realized you were doing that?
Did you go back and apologize or do anything to make up for your behavior?
How did you feel after that?
How do you think the other person felt?
RP: Elicit from group several examples to role-play when they were a bully and then apologized.
How many of you think the grown-ups you live with have problems? (Most kids know adults have problems and have no reluctance about saying so.)
Do adults ever treat you differently because of their problems?
What are some of the ways you know the grown-ups around you are under stress? No names or specifics.
How many of you have ever been punished?
Did you ever feel that the punishment was unfair? (Most kids have this experience.)
What if someone punishes you in a way that injures your body?
What if that punishment is something like hitting you so hard that it leaves bruises or marks that are there the next day?
What if they say they only did it because you were bad?
Would you tell someone?
Would you be afraid to tell?
You need to know that no child ever deserves to be punished in a way that leaves marks or bruises that are there the next day. An adult who does that is having problems that are being taken out on the child. When you ask for help for yourself, often the grownup can also get help with their problems.
Telling someone else about what is happening to you is important so you don’t continue to get hurt and the adult can get help for their problem.
Would it take a lot of courage to ask for help in a situation like this? Absolutely.
Is it important that you do it? Absolutely!
Do grown-ups ever hurt you with their words?
Just because an adult gets upset and says things that aren’t very nice, that doesn’t make what they say true.
RP: I need someone to help me.
(Teacher will play role of adult in all these examples.)
If I say to you, “You’re so stupid, I can’t believe you belong in my family.” Does that hurt?
Is it true just because I say it? Of course not!
How does having someone say something like this feel in your body?
What other feelings do you have?
What response do you feel like making?
This time, when I say something unkind to you, I want you to say, “That’s not true about me” inside your head.
“You’re good for absolutely nothing!” Did you remember to say, “That’s not true about me?” How did it feel?
RP: What if an adult says to you, “You’ll never amount to anything!” Does that hurt?
How do you handle it?
RP: What if an adult says, “You’re the worst kid I’ve ever had to be around.” Does that hurt?
How do you handle it, so you don’t take it inside you or believe it?
Discussion: If someone hurts you with his or her words, and it happens to you a lot, you should tell someone about that. One important benefit of you asking for help is that the adult who is having a hard time can also get help with handling their problems. If you need to ask for help, who would you talk to? Make a list.
Make a list of all the grown-ups that could help you with a problem. Write down their numbers and begin to develop your own phone book.
Day 5 – Resources for help – Asking for what you need
© 2016 Sherryll Kraizer, Ph.D. Used with permission