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Take A Stand: Prevention of Bullying – Ages 11-12, Day 1

Take A Stand: Prevention of Bullying

11-12 year olds- Instructional Guide Day 1

By Sherryll Kraizer, Ph.D.

 

The Classroom Program

To be redundant and make my point about what is good for children and families – please do not use any of the children’s materials without watching the video in its entirety and reading the Guidelines for Teaching the Program and  giving all parents an opportunity to watch the video and read the Parent Handbook.  

 

I’ve made the process of teaching the Take A Stand Program as easy as possible, the manual walks teachers through what to say, what responses to expect, what role-plays to use and how to follow up.  It covers all the common – and some not so common – concerns children express, with the accompanying explanations.

This guide, however, is only a tool.  Teachers should feel free to use the curriculum guide in a way that is consistent with their own style and comfort level and the needs of the children in their group.  Teachers should feel free to break the presentation down into smaller parts, adapt the role-plays to the community or change some of the language to make it more appropriate to the developmental level of the group.

Because every group is different, you may cover more or less of the materials on any given day.  Feel free to move more quickly or slowly depending on the group you are working with.

The Program is most effective when the five sessions are presented about once a week.  This allows time for the children to utilize the skills and begin to see changes. 

Change over time is the goal, and the Program should be conducted on an annual basis.  This allows the children to learn new skills as they mature and keeps the concepts fresh for all age levels every year.

Objectives – Day 1

  • To identify what a bully is and recognize the behaviors of bullies
  • To identify current bullying problems or patterns in their community
  • To identify appropriate responses to bullying
  • To define Take A Stand and being coachable

 

Teacher-Directed Discussion and Role-play

NOTE: All of the charts in this section should be started with just the headlines.  The group can fill them in as they go through the five lessons. 

Who can tell me what a bully is? (Fill in chart – see example below)

What is verbal bullying?   

What bullying hurts your feelings? 

What bullying happens in groups of kids?

What about peer pressure?  What is peer pressure? Is that a form of bullying?

 

 Physical Verbal Emotional Group Bullying
Hitting Name-calling Exclusion Peer pressure
Pushing Teasing Talking about Excluding
Kicking Being mean Acting superior Making fun
Shoving Making fun Being mean Taunting
Pinching Bad language Not caring Set up to get in trouble
Violence Verbal Abuse No conscience Threats
Abusive Bossy Thoughtless Ganging up on someone
Destructive Shouting Gossip Name-calling
Spitting Taunting Threatening Pranks
Tripping Cursing Belittling

 

Do we have any bullying problems in our school – no names – just talk about the behavior? 

Which of these types of behaviors that we’ve listed have you seen – no names. (Highlight those on the chart.)

 

How many of you can see that you might have been a bully in the past, even though you didn’t know it at the time?

How did it feel at the time you did it?

How did it feel later?

Did your friends know about it at the time?

How did they react at the time?

 

How did the person you bullied feel?

 

What about witnessing this type of bullying.  Have any of you had that experience? 

How did you feel at the time?

How did you feel about it later, after you’d had time to think about it?

 

Take A Stand

This Program is called Take A Stand.  What do you think “Take A Stand” means?

When you speak up for what you believe in, for what you know to be right, you take a stand.  You literally stand up, look out at the world and say, “This is who I am, and this is what I stand for.” 

In this class, we take a stand for treating people fairly, with respect for who they are, and for speaking up for those who are not treated with respect.  We speak out against bullying. 

We declare that we want to live in a community that treats everyone with respect.  We declare that we can be counted on to remind other people when they are not treating others with respect and consideration for their individuality.


Role-playing (RP)

We’re going to act out some examples of bullying and see what we can do about bullying in our community.  I’m going to have two or three of you come up here with me.  I’m going to give you a part to play.  You’ll pretend to be that person and act the way that person would act. 

 

RP: I need two people to help me.  (One will be a bully and one will be the child being bullied.)

First child:  I’d like you to be the bully, to act out leaning over as you walk by and saying, “You’re an idiot!”   

Second child:  I’d like you to be the child being insulted.  Show us what you would say and do?

Have them act this situation out.

NOTE: Brainstorm with the group possible responses and begin to list them on a chart as you continue with several more role-play situations.  Keep this list posted throughout the sessions and keep adding their ideas.

 

STATEMENTS BEHAVIORS ACTION FOR HELP
“That wasn’t nice.” Walk away Go play with another group of kids
“Don’t do that.” Join another group If you’re really afraid for your safety, run to help
“I’m going to tell if you do that again.” Get away and tell Go and tell a teacher
“That really hurts my feelings.” Ignore them Tell a parent or other adult
“That’s not a very nice thing to say.” Act like you don’t care Go play with another group of kids
“Give that back or I’ll tell the teacher.” Avoid the bully If you’re really afraid, go for help
Make a joke – “Whatever”  “No kidding”  “So what”    
“Leave me alone”  

 

 

Coaching

In order to learn to eliminate bullying from our community, you’ll need to learn some new skills.  My job is to be your coach.  A Coach is someone who provides training, who gradually shows you how your performance can be improved.

 

Your job is to be “coachable.”  You must be willing to listen to my suggestions and to those of other people in the class.  You need to be willing to follow directions, to try something you’ve never tried before, to recognize that a coach knows more about the subject than you do.  If you’re not coachable, you’re not learning.  You’re wasting your time. Raise your hands if you’re willing to be  “coachable.”

 

Between now and the next session, when we’ll do a lot of role-playing, I’d like you to think about several things.  You may write about them or just think about them.  No one is going to look at what you write and whether or not you do the assignment is up to you.  If you raised your hand when I asked if you were committed to learning another way to get along, then you’ll want to do this assignment.

 

ACTIVITY

Think about the following questions:

 

  1. Am I ever a bully?
  2. How does that make me feel?
  3. Do I ever let myself be bullied?
  4. How does that make me feel?
  5. Have I ever seen someone else bullied and stood by doing nothing?
  6. How did that make me feel?
  7. How could I act on my commitment to stop bullying behavior?

 

 

Day 2 – Elements of communication and types of behaviors

Day 3 – Choices

Day 4 – Changing your own behaviors & advocating for others

Day 5 – Preventing emotional abuse & getting help

© 2016 Sherryll Kraizer, Ph.D.  Used with permission

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Author Dr. Sherryll Kraizer has a Ph.D. in education with a specialization in youth at risk.