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Take A Stand: Prevention of Bullying – Ages 11-12, Day 4

Take A Stand: Prevention of Bullying

11-12 year olds – Instructional Guide Day 4

By Sherryll Kraizer, Ph.D.

 

Objectives

  • To recognize bullying when they see it.
  • To recognize their feelings as an observer.
  • To role-play intervention when they observe bullying.
  • To recognize bullying behaviors in themselves.
  • To act after they have been a bully to clean it up.

 

Teacher-Directed Discussion and Role-play

Are we becoming a community that is not going to accept bullying behavior? 

How is that happening?

Have any of you seen someone else being bullied lately?

How did you feel? 

 

Have any of you acted as advocates recently?

If you acted as an advocate, how did you feel?

 

Have you ever reported bullying behavior to an adult?

How did you feel about doing that?

What happened?

If the adult did nothing, how did you feel about that?

 

Role-play (RP)

RP I need 5 people to help me.  (3 bullies, 1 victim, 1 advocate)

Bullies:  You are making fun of a younger kid on the playground, saying things about how s/he looks or acts. 

          Advocate:  These bullies are your friends, but you know this is wrong.  What could you do? 

Emphasize the role of the observers.  If there is any hesitation, remind them about discussions of:

  • Exclusion and how it makes people feel
  • How the bullying kids feel
  • How the observers feel

 

RP: I need 5 people to help me.  (3 bullies, 1 victim, 1 advocate)

Bullies:  You are intimidating someone into giving up his or her CD’s.

          Advocate: What could you do to intervene?

Act out possible responses.  Again, emphasize the role of the observers.

  • How do you think the kid being intimidated feels?
  • How do you feel seeing this happen?
  • What could you do?

 

RP: I need 7 people to help me.  (4 bullies, 3 victim)

Bullies:  You are intimidating a group of kids in the after school program.

          Victims:  What would you do?  Act out this situation.

If you just avoid them, how does that make you feel?

Is it possible that sometimes avoidance is the best response?

 

RP: I need 5 people to help me.  (3 bullies, 1 victim, 1 advocate)

Bullies:  You are teasing a younger kid saying things “You’re so ugly, your mother doesn’t even like you!” 

          Advocate:  What could you do?  Act this out.  

Again, emphasize the role of the observers.

  • Discuss how this makes the bullied child feel.
  • Discuss how the bullying child feels.
  • Discuss how you feel seeing this happen.

 

Discussion: 

How many of you can think of a time when you were a bully, or made someone feel bad with your words in the past few days?

Did you do anything to clean up your behavior?  Did you ask the other person to forgive you?  Did you apologize?  If not, is it cleaned up? 

 

RP: I need 5 people to help me.  (3 bullies, 1 victim, 1 bully turned advocate)

Bullies: You are making fun and saying unkind things to the fifth child?   

          Advocate:  You apologize for being mean.  Act this out.   

Have every child practice apologizing.  The concept of apologizing and actually finding the words to do so, and then doing it with eye contact and appropriate body language, are two very different things.  Children need practice.

How did it feel to apologize for the bully and for the bullied person?

 

I’d like you to pay attention to how you treat other people and practice taking responsibility for cleaning up after you’ve hurt someone else.

 

Activity

Think of one or more people you have treated badly.  Apologize to them in the next 24 hours.  Notice how you feel as you are thinking about apologizing, how you feel while you are apologizing and how you feel after you have apologized.  Does apologizing make any difference in how you feel toward the person or how the person feels toward you?

Notice how often group bullying behavior occurs in what you watch on television.  Keep track of how often you see an advocate intervene.  Bring specific examples to the next class.

 

Day 5 – Preventing emotional abuse & getting help

© 2016 Sherryll Kraizer, Ph.D  Used with permission.

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Author Dr. Sherryll Kraizer has a Ph.D. in education with a specialization in youth at risk.