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Take A Stand: Prevention of Bullying – Ages 8, Day 2

Take A Stand: Prevention of Bullying

8 Year Olds – Instructional Guide Day 2

By Sherryll Kraizer, Ph.D.

 

Objectives

  • To recognize feelings generated by bullying behavior
  • To define Advocacy
  • To define Coaching and Being Coachable
  • To role-play being bullied, standing up for yourself and being an advocate

 

Teacher-Directed Discussion and Role-play (RP)

Did any of you observe bullying situations since our last discussion?  (No names.)

If you have ever been bullied, how did it make you feel? (List as they think of feelings – see example below)

If you have ever been a bully, how did it feel?

If you have ever seen someone else being bullied, how did you feel?

 

Feelings of Person Being Bullied Feelings of Bully Feelings Seeing Someone Else Bullied
Pain / Hurt Powerful / Taking over Sorry
Want revenge Superior / Justified Mad / Angry
Shocked Lonely / Isolated Confused
Confused In control Scared / Afraid
Want to bully back Tough Worried / Anxious
Get bully in trouble Sadness / Depression Vulnerable / Uncertain
Want to die Pain Want to defend person
Embarrassed Guilty Dislike / Hatred
Afraid / Terrified Afraid / Cowardly Guilty
Sad / Depressed / Alone Mean Revengeful
Explosive Getting attention Glad its not you

 

Being An Advocate

Part of Taking a Stand is learning to be an “Advocate.” 

Who knows what an advocate is?  

An advocate is someone who speaks up for someone else.  We’re going to speak up — to be advocates — for kids who are being bullied.  We’re also going to be advocates for our community by speaking up and letting bullies know that their behavior is unacceptable in our community. 

 

There are really three primary messages we want to give:

  1. Bullying behavior is unacceptable in this community (school, house, neighborhood).
  2. We do not want to be around people who treat others with disrespect.
  3. We are going to report bullying that is on going, that we are unable to stop through our own efforts.

 

RP: I need two people to help me.  (1 bully, 1 victim)

           Bully says, “Your whole family is stupid.” 

          Victim:  I want you to respond using all the elements of communication.  

 

RP: I need two people to help me.  (1 bully, 1 victim)

Bully:  Pretend to trip the other person and then laugh? 

          Victim:  How are you going to respond?  Be sure to use eye contact, body language and clear language in your response.  You might say, “That was not an accident.  Leave me alone.”

 

Why is it important to speak up, to take a stand for yourself?  If you don’t speak up, how will people know how you feel?

 

Group Bullying

What about bullying that happens in groups?  What kinds of things happen?

Add to list from above. (Teasing, scapegoating, exclusion, peer pressure, getting a younger child to do something stupid or inappropriate)

 

RP: I need four people to help me.  (2 bullies, 1 victim, 1 advocate)

Bullies say, “You’re too clumsy to play this game?”       

          Victim: How would that feel?  What could you say or do? 

          Advocate:  What could an advocate say or do?

 

RP: I need five people to help me.  (3 bullies, 1 victim, 1 advocate)

Bullies:  You are playing keep away with another kid’s coat? 

          Advocate: How could you intervene as an advocate?

Possible responses: “That’s not nice.  We don’t treat other people that way” Take coat and give it back to other child.

 

RP: I need three people to help me.  (1 bully, 1 victim, 1 advocate)

Bully:  You are calling a younger kid names?  

           Advocate:  How could you be an advocate?

Possible responses: “Stop it.  We don’t talk to people that way.” To other child, say, “Let’s go do something.”

 

RP: I need six people to help me.  (3 bullies, 1 victim, 2 advocate)

          Bullies:  You are making fun of other kids and throwing leaves or sticks at them?

          Advocates:  How could you intervene as advocates?

Possible responses: “That’s not nice, stop it!” “We agreed not to treat each other that way.” Walk away with children being made fun of.

 

Discussion:

Who can give me some other examples of situations in which you could be an advocate, perhaps situations in the neighborhood or at home, maybe with your brothers and sisters or cousins?  (Role-play or discuss some examples)

 

Coaching and Being Coachable

Who knows what it means to be a coach?

A Coach is someone who provides training, who gradually shows you how your performance can be improved.

In order to learn from a coach, you must be “coachable.”  You must be willing to listen, to follow directions, to try something you’ve never tried before, to recognize that your coach knows more about the subject than you do.  If you’re not coachable, you’re not learning.  You’re wasting your time. 

So in the next few days, look for opportunities to coach others about how we treat one another and be willing to accept coaching from me and other advocates!

 

Activity

Draw a picture of a bullying situation in which someone intervenes as a coach.  Put in bubbles what the people would say.

 

Day 3 – Recognizing costs and payoffs of bullying

Day 4 – Preventing emotional and physical bullying

Day 5 – Learning to tell and ask for help effectively

© 2016 Sherryll Kraizer, Ph.D.  Used with permission.

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Author Dr. Sherryll Kraizer has a Ph.D. in education with a specialization in youth at risk.